Wednesday, May 2, 2012

The Really Real Housewives of Calgary

We do laundry. We raise children. We make sure there's food in the frig.  We don't take limos to the spa or organize parties that cost more than my wedding. We are wives who actually manage households. We are the Really Real Housewives of Calgary.

Our six husbands work together at jobs that require transfers all over the world. My situation is unusual in that my husband's first and only international assignment has been this one. The other Really Real Housewives have lived in countries I've only seen on my multi-colored globe. My family, on the other hand, has lived in four different cities in the southern US before moving to this exotic land the locals call "Canada."

I'm beginning to understand the language and the currency. When a native asks if I have my "toque" I no longer stare back, frightened. I merely show it to them and put it on my head. (Relax-it's a hat!). If a cashier should ask for another "looney," I understand that they mean a dollar coin. I'm navigating my way through this strange land and now have American friends to share the journey with me.

The Really Real Housewives of Calgary moved here at different times but we've all been here less than two years. We share the names of great places to shop or eat and offer suggestions for day trips on the weekends. It's nice to finally run in a circle of women who understand my life.

We are the women behind the men (making rabbit ears!). Their careers come first. Transfers come suddenly and often require our husbands be on the new job within a couple of weeks. We wives get left behind to deal with the house and the children. We are constantly starting over and have sacrificed everything to be with the men we love.

When the Really Real Housewives of Calgary get together and a topic comes up like paying international income tax or keeping in touch with children who live in another country, no long dialogue about how that came to be or how scary this life is sometimes is necessary. They already know. It's nice to just cut to the chase.

And a bonus that comes with being a Really Real Housewife is that in all the time I've known these women, no one has ever flipped a table.


J said...
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Shelley-Lynne Domingue said...

Wow! That's an adventure and Calgary of all places! I'm looking forward to checking more of your blog but simply had to comment now. :)
Shelley with an EY

caryl said...