Sunday, December 30, 2007

My Husband, My Daddy

My family doesn't "get" this whole blog thing. I told them it makes me happy. I told them it keeps me writing while I look for another publication to write for. They still shake their heads and tell me I'm online too much.

I really don't think I am. I check in with my favorite peeps' blogs and check my e-mail in the morning while my brain unscrambles. If I have something on my mind, I'll write in (on?) my blog. I check in with everyone again at night before I go to bed.

What I don't get is, why is it socially acceptable for my husband to sit on the couch and watch TV all evening, but it's supposedly unhealthy for me to be online instead?

Today my husband treated me like a child and hid the modem for our computer so that I couldn't get online all day. The only reason he gave it back to me is because we need the modem in order for our phones to work.

When I'm online, I'm not looking for a man, or gambling or buying stuff. I'm connecting with people who make me feel good about myself. They think I'm smart and funny. They're interested in what's going on with me.

If you're reading this, you're like me and see nothing wrong with being online. Do any of you take heat from your loved ones every time you log into (on to?) the Internet?


Julie said...

Caryl, pardon my bluntness but I think your husband is mean.

My mom is the only person who doesn't get my internet 'thing.' But then again, she thinks she knows better than me about pretty much everything, so this is no different than anything else I do. And she lives in a different town so it's only a problem when she visits.

I personally think too much internet is only a problem when it takes someone away from stuff they really ought to be doing instead. Sometimes I feel like I neglect my kids if I spend too much time online. But like anything else, it's fine in moderation.

You shouldn't have to justify doing something that brings you pleasure. My advice is that you unplug the t.v. and see how your husband likes it. Not once, but over and over, so he'll have to plug it in every time he wants to watch it. Treat him like a kid, too, and tell him he watches too much t.v. Seriously.

xoxoxo and Happy New Year,

caryl said...

I agree, Julie. That was a mean thing for him to do. I like the idea of unplugging the TV! It made me chuckle.

My Mom is coming for her annual holiday visit and will be here for a week. I'll betcha Greg's going to ask her to write down everytime I'm online. So I'm gonna find a way to screw with them. Haha! Fun!

I can write freely here because they don't read my blog!

amynoroom said...

My husband is the same me shit about being online, yet he sits and stares at shitty old movies and Modern Marvels 24/7.

At least I'm researching stuff, reading news, writing, etc.

Chicken & Waffles said...

I get zero grief at all...well, I used to get a little grief when I would sit up on the Gray Charles chat until 3 am..on a work night. And I have to say, I think that complaint was warranted.

But otherwise, he's totally supportive and considers my blog my private domain and a therapeutic outlet (which it is). I have a lot of freedom in my relationship which is exactly the way I want things.

Jennifer said...

I occasionally get annoyed looks and rolled eyes when I am online - but same thing here. My husband spends an inordinate amount of time watching mindless crap on TV, so what is the difference? He would never try to hide the modem though. Not only because he's not that mean, but because he wouldn't know which doohickey on the computer that is, ha ha ha!!

JOJOSIE said...

I'm so happy I'm not the only one this happens too. I'm the senior citizen here but age doesn't help. Same thing, he watches way more TV than I spend time on the internet, but he makes comments about how you can get addicted,as he's read about it. I have news for him, TV can be addictive too. My computer and the big TV are in the great room so I can watch TV while at my computer desk if I want and also talk to DH. Caryl don't stop writing as I really enjoy your blog and check it out daily. You have fans.

heylaw said...

I agree with Julie's first sentence; but don't stoop down to his level by doing the same thing to him. You're the grown up here, obviously.

Since my husband works nights and I work days, I spend a lot of time alone and therefore, online (mostly playing cards). I make little negotiations with load of laundry, one game of spades, clean out the closet, one game of hearts..... as long as you know you're not doing anything wrong and you have nothing to hide - ignore him. It's just an immature, insecure man-thing.

All things great in 08!!